JourneywomanWhen you know you're not with the One
April 29th 2008 02:24
When people talk about 'The One', they are referring to true, unquestionable love for another who feels the same way. This is not to say that there aren't numerous 'Ones' for every person, because there are; some people are just closer to the mark than others.
So when you know that you're NOT with the One, what do you do? How long should a relationship last when the two people in it aren't right for each other? The simple answer would be "not long at all", but real life is never simple.
Right now, I know that the man I'm seeing is not the One for me, and for that reason I've given the relationship a three-month time limit. If things haven't changed in twelve weeks, then I'll sit him down and have 'the talk' about where things are going. I'm quite certain that he feels the same way about me - we have a great friendship, but things are lacking in the sparks department.
When you find the One, you know. You just know. All your other relationships start to feel like a mere precursor to the real thing. So if you're not with the One and you know it, don't go wasting time in the relationship - end it before things get messy and tiresome. Remember, if you're floundering in a relationship you don't want to be in, you're denying both yourself and your partner the chance of finding real happiness.
If you want to stay in the relationship out of comfort and routine, then you have to accept that you may never find true love. And that's a big thing to have to face! Relationships aren't meant to be easy, but they shouldn't be forced along either. If you know you're not with the One, put a time limit on how long you're going to stay with them. If it's months rather than years, so much the better - the sooner you get out of that doomed relationship, the sooner you will meet someone special who you were meant to be with. These things take time, but most people find love and happiness in the end.
So when you know that you're NOT with the One, what do you do? How long should a relationship last when the two people in it aren't right for each other? The simple answer would be "not long at all", but real life is never simple.
Right now, I know that the man I'm seeing is not the One for me, and for that reason I've given the relationship a three-month time limit. If things haven't changed in twelve weeks, then I'll sit him down and have 'the talk' about where things are going. I'm quite certain that he feels the same way about me - we have a great friendship, but things are lacking in the sparks department.
When you find the One, you know. You just know. All your other relationships start to feel like a mere precursor to the real thing. So if you're not with the One and you know it, don't go wasting time in the relationship - end it before things get messy and tiresome. Remember, if you're floundering in a relationship you don't want to be in, you're denying both yourself and your partner the chance of finding real happiness.
If you want to stay in the relationship out of comfort and routine, then you have to accept that you may never find true love. And that's a big thing to have to face! Relationships aren't meant to be easy, but they shouldn't be forced along either. If you know you're not with the One, put a time limit on how long you're going to stay with them. If it's months rather than years, so much the better - the sooner you get out of that doomed relationship, the sooner you will meet someone special who you were meant to be with. These things take time, but most people find love and happiness in the end.
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