JourneywomanThe sex drought
October 22nd 2008 04:09
As humans we need to connect with others and experience intimacy every now and then, so being single and dealing with a sex drought is definitely tough. For me it's been almost three months since I last saw any action, and believe me as a woman I do think about it! It comes (hehe) in waves though - sometimes I'll be really horny for a day or two then not think about sex for days. Young men seem to have a more consistent sex drive though, and because of this a sex drought would probably be harder to tolerate for them.
I know that in the big scheme of things three months isn't a long time and others would go through much longer dry phases. It can be easy to obsess about sex and how lame it is that you aren't getting any, but you need to remember it won't last forever.
Masturbation helps with the craving but can make you feel lonely... the best thing to do, I've found, is to fill your days with activity. If you're not at work or school then go to the gym, be with mates, go for a surf or whatever it is you do. Basically if you're doing things, then you won't be thinking about sex. And when you're alone in bed at night you'll fall asleep faster.
Also, think about the times when you had way too much sex, and were sore afterwards... come on we've all been there! Well, all except virgins of course.
If your sex drought has lasted years, you need to take a look at your life and see what you can do to change this. We're social creatures and crave intimacy, and if you're of age and aren't experiencing it then you need to make a few changes. Chances are you already know what those changes should be. As for being in a relationship and experiencing a sex drought... well that's for another blog. Read all you can to learn about the opposite sex, improve yourself to be the best you can be, and get out there and meet someone. Sex droughts should never last forever!
I see a tree and I wonder... do vaginas grow over from lack of use?
I know that in the big scheme of things three months isn't a long time and others would go through much longer dry phases. It can be easy to obsess about sex and how lame it is that you aren't getting any, but you need to remember it won't last forever.
Masturbation helps with the craving but can make you feel lonely... the best thing to do, I've found, is to fill your days with activity. If you're not at work or school then go to the gym, be with mates, go for a surf or whatever it is you do. Basically if you're doing things, then you won't be thinking about sex. And when you're alone in bed at night you'll fall asleep faster.
Also, think about the times when you had way too much sex, and were sore afterwards... come on we've all been there! Well, all except virgins of course.
If your sex drought has lasted years, you need to take a look at your life and see what you can do to change this. We're social creatures and crave intimacy, and if you're of age and aren't experiencing it then you need to make a few changes. Chances are you already know what those changes should be. As for being in a relationship and experiencing a sex drought... well that's for another blog. Read all you can to learn about the opposite sex, improve yourself to be the best you can be, and get out there and meet someone. Sex droughts should never last forever!
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It's funny how it can affect you - it's not only about physical need. Certainly, you can masturbate until the paint cracks, but there's not the satisfaction of coupling with another human being.
What's your plan? Lower the standards? Go out more? Craigslist?
Comment by badfish
I've been having to deal with chemo and surgeries the past year, so my drought has been just as long. Moreoever, I've had to think about the love of my life getting it on with some other guy while I'm alone in the hospital.
The only thing that keeps me going is imagining how much sweeter everything will be when I'm healthy and at it again. Gotta stay strong.
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Cib, I know, I'm always terrified of looking desperate so I often come off as too aloof (according to my friends). My plan is to get out more. Sure, you can lower your standards (I've done that by sleeping with exes) but it'd be soooo much better to actually meet the One. I haven't found him yet but I'm on the lookout!
Badfish, you make my problems seem minor by comparison! Cheers for the comment. You've got the right attitude though I reckon. What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger, to be sure.
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But until I find the person who rocks my world, I don't really want to be with anyone else. I'm over casual sex and friend-sex.
So a sex drought it is. It's really not such a bad thing once you get used to the idea.
Comment by Kleonaptra
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I never used to put up with a drought - if I was up for it Id find someone.
But true love has its issues - for some reason when I got a long term partner my sex drive disappeared! And it doesnt have to do with him, I still find him smokin hot - its like I dont have to try anymore.
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Im glad to know its not my problem alone, and other girls suffer the 'gotta man dont need sex' issue.