JourneywomanRomancing the Stoner
April 9th 2008 04:04
With over 800,000 Australians over the age of 14 smoking marijuana every week, pot use has become something of a national epidemic. I'm prone to the odd bit of smoking myself. But what should you do if the person you're with (or chasing) is into pot? I'm not talking about harder drugs like cocaine, ice or heroin, which truly destroy lives, but the occasional toke of green. Not exactly harmless, but not entirely harmful either.
First of all, you have to know your own principles on the matter, and decide whether your partner's pot use is reason enough not to be with them. If you use pot yourself, then you won't have a problem, as you're not within your rights to criticise them. If you can handle the odd bit of inane conversation, giggling fits, sleepiness and spaced-out behaviour, and it doesn't go against your moral fibre, then you'll be fine within your relationship. As long as your partner's pot use doesn't increase dramatically, and they don't show signs of mania resulting from marijuana-related psychosis, you should be happy being with your stoner for as long as the relationship lasts.
But then there are the problems related to pot use, namely, moving onto heavier drugs and the depression experienced by those 'coming down'. Marijuana is a depressant, that is, a drug that slows bodily functions, and can lead to a low mood after the 'high' has worn away. Also, the more one smokes, the more one needs to smoke, as the stoner's body gradually becomes more immune to the drug. This is the danger - while some are happy to keep smoking their joints, others will experiment with harder drugs to get that much sought-after high. This is when it becomes a problem, as being in a relationship with a hard drug addict can be nothing short of hell. The mood swings, the crazy highs and lows, the fights and the threats - most are too much for the average person to deal with.
Essentially, if you're romancing a stoner, you have to remember that there is the possibility of their smoking becoming a full-on hard drug addiction. If your partner can promise you that it will never be like that, and you believe them, then there is no issue. There is always a chance that this is just a phase for them, but then, you may also be with a lifetime stoner. Personally my guy and I smoke together, which also makes the sex better - marijuana allows you to have heightened orgasms. Not that I'm promoting it, far from it, it's just what I've noticed.
So what experiences have you had with marijuana use within your relationship? Has it caused a problem for you? Let me know.
First of all, you have to know your own principles on the matter, and decide whether your partner's pot use is reason enough not to be with them. If you use pot yourself, then you won't have a problem, as you're not within your rights to criticise them. If you can handle the odd bit of inane conversation, giggling fits, sleepiness and spaced-out behaviour, and it doesn't go against your moral fibre, then you'll be fine within your relationship. As long as your partner's pot use doesn't increase dramatically, and they don't show signs of mania resulting from marijuana-related psychosis, you should be happy being with your stoner for as long as the relationship lasts.
But then there are the problems related to pot use, namely, moving onto heavier drugs and the depression experienced by those 'coming down'. Marijuana is a depressant, that is, a drug that slows bodily functions, and can lead to a low mood after the 'high' has worn away. Also, the more one smokes, the more one needs to smoke, as the stoner's body gradually becomes more immune to the drug. This is the danger - while some are happy to keep smoking their joints, others will experiment with harder drugs to get that much sought-after high. This is when it becomes a problem, as being in a relationship with a hard drug addict can be nothing short of hell. The mood swings, the crazy highs and lows, the fights and the threats - most are too much for the average person to deal with.
Essentially, if you're romancing a stoner, you have to remember that there is the possibility of their smoking becoming a full-on hard drug addiction. If your partner can promise you that it will never be like that, and you believe them, then there is no issue. There is always a chance that this is just a phase for them, but then, you may also be with a lifetime stoner. Personally my guy and I smoke together, which also makes the sex better - marijuana allows you to have heightened orgasms. Not that I'm promoting it, far from it, it's just what I've noticed.
So what experiences have you had with marijuana use within your relationship? Has it caused a problem for you? Let me know.
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Comment by Louie
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I rarely smoke it, but have nothing against those that do.
I share a house with a stoner and it is quite sad to watch what happens as you progress from social smoking to addiction; for example he prides himself on being tidy, yet his room is beyond messy, complete with rotting food and empty food containers wall to wall....toxic. Plus he seems to live in this world of delusion about many many things, so much so I can barely talk to him, and as for relationships, you can forget that...way too intense and crazy, if they don't run before they see the room, it doesnt take long after - and he doesnt get it - too sad.
Comment by Cibbuano
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That's not a good person to be.
Generally, I think people are good at sorting themselves out. Weed wouldn't be so mysterious and appealing if it was widespread and we were indifferent to it.
Comment by tlcorbin
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The drug enhanced or alcohol enhanced sex isn't all that it's cracked up to be. . .
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Comment by Nomad
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anyway, each to their own
Nomad (still awesome)