JourneywomanI don't want to be in love
May 13th 2008 00:49
It's often assumed that if you're single, you're actively looking for a partner and would change singledom for partnership in a heartbeat. And many single people would, there's no denying that. However, not all are looking to fall in love, myself included. Right now, I'm totally apathetic about meeting someone new. I'm sick of relationships. I like being single, doing my own thing without having to think about anyone else. Put simply, I don't want to be in love.
What I want to know is, do you think this is a natural state to be in? Essentially, it goes against human nature and the need to procreate. Perhaps it's just a phase - I'm as relationship-obsessed as the next girl, normally - but I'm wondering how long it's going to last. I just feel totally at ease with my single life and wouldn't trade it unless I meet someone truly spectacular.
The problem with feeling this way is that I might meet someone who fills that description, but I won't be motivated to do anything about it. And that's a scary thought - I don't want to miss out on happiness, but then, maybe I'm already happy enough as it is. Settling for second-best is not an option for me. I love being single, and I can say that in all honesty.
They say that you have to love yourself before you can love another, so perhaps this is that necessary first stage, the jumping-off point from which a great relationship can blossom. Let me know your thoughts, orblers.
What I want to know is, do you think this is a natural state to be in? Essentially, it goes against human nature and the need to procreate. Perhaps it's just a phase - I'm as relationship-obsessed as the next girl, normally - but I'm wondering how long it's going to last. I just feel totally at ease with my single life and wouldn't trade it unless I meet someone truly spectacular.
The problem with feeling this way is that I might meet someone who fills that description, but I won't be motivated to do anything about it. And that's a scary thought - I don't want to miss out on happiness, but then, maybe I'm already happy enough as it is. Settling for second-best is not an option for me. I love being single, and I can say that in all honesty.
They say that you have to love yourself before you can love another, so perhaps this is that necessary first stage, the jumping-off point from which a great relationship can blossom. Let me know your thoughts, orblers.
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Comment by Stanley
during periods of singledom we all have made similar statements to yours. i know i have, but using myself as a test case, deep down i wanted to fall in love because i knew what that felt like to be crazy about someone and have that person feel the same.
i don't doubt your sincerity in being happy single, but there surely must be moments when you wish you had someone to enjoy moments of comfortable silences? someone to text you that they're thinking about you?
humans are social creatures and want to be loved. even during times when they say they don't want to.
Comment by Journeywoman
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You're right though, humans are social creatures and we do seek companionship, but there are times when it's the last thing on our minds, because life gets in the way. Cheers for the comment mate.