JourneywomanHow to be popular with women
January 22nd 2008 00:32
Women make great friends, and the more female friends you have, the more likely it is you’ll meet a girl you want to have a relationship with. Being popular with women is easy – all you have to do is talk to them in a friendly way, without showing any disrespect. Most women are keen to make new male friends, for the very same reason, and also because you could one day be more than friends if the planets align that way (no I’m not an astrologist, I was just being dramatic). It’s a win-win situation.
But how do you go about talking to women? Simple, you just do it. It doesn’t matter what you talk about, as many women are great conversationalists and will take any topic you choose and run with it. Some may be surprised at first, but after a while no-one will remember who started the conversation, you’ll just be chatting like you’ve know each other forever.
Being popular with women is important, not only because you can meet someone who is right for you, but also because of the boost it will give your image. When women see a man surrounded by other women, laughing and talking up a storm, they automatically assume that you must be special in some way, or else these women would not be hanging around you. So many men lose out here because they don’t see women as “friends”, only as hook-ups or relationship material. Women can sense any lack of respect, so if you don’t respect women you’ll need to work on that. There is so much you can learn from women simply by being their friend.
Also, it makes the meeting of a new potential partner much easier, as some women feel most comfortable talking to other women, and they will befriend your new female friends before they are brave enough to talk to you. Always remember that shyness is something that affects women too, not just men, so if she seems extra coy around you, chances are she’s a bit intimidated or is into you but doesn’t know how to go about letting you know. All this is learnt through practice. The more female friends you have, the more opportunities you have to expand your dating horizons – so get chatting to those girls now. Sure, they’re going to get ‘girly’ on you from time to time… but the confidence it gives you in dealing with women is worth it, and you may just make a valuable lifelong friend.
But how do you go about talking to women? Simple, you just do it. It doesn’t matter what you talk about, as many women are great conversationalists and will take any topic you choose and run with it. Some may be surprised at first, but after a while no-one will remember who started the conversation, you’ll just be chatting like you’ve know each other forever.
Being popular with women is important, not only because you can meet someone who is right for you, but also because of the boost it will give your image. When women see a man surrounded by other women, laughing and talking up a storm, they automatically assume that you must be special in some way, or else these women would not be hanging around you. So many men lose out here because they don’t see women as “friends”, only as hook-ups or relationship material. Women can sense any lack of respect, so if you don’t respect women you’ll need to work on that. There is so much you can learn from women simply by being their friend.
Also, it makes the meeting of a new potential partner much easier, as some women feel most comfortable talking to other women, and they will befriend your new female friends before they are brave enough to talk to you. Always remember that shyness is something that affects women too, not just men, so if she seems extra coy around you, chances are she’s a bit intimidated or is into you but doesn’t know how to go about letting you know. All this is learnt through practice. The more female friends you have, the more opportunities you have to expand your dating horizons – so get chatting to those girls now. Sure, they’re going to get ‘girly’ on you from time to time… but the confidence it gives you in dealing with women is worth it, and you may just make a valuable lifelong friend.
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Comment by Cibbuano
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"Being popular with women is easy – all you have to do is talk to them in a friendly way, without showing any disrespect."
"Always remember that shyness is something that affects women too, not just men"
However, there is one thing that I think is not completely reasonable:
" It doesn’t matter what you talk about, as many women are great conversationalists and will take any topic you choose and run with it."
While it's true that many women are great conversationalists, are you implying that they're better than men? I wouldn't agree with that.
Also, you state that women will take any topic I choose. Topics of conversation that have proved very unpopular with Australian women that I have met:
Video games
How math is beautiful
Computers, or fixing computers
whereas, I could replace those three topics with similar (in spirit) topics and then they inspire conversation:
Sports games
How movies are beautiful
Cars, or fixing cars
I suppose I've got this opinion because I haven't met any geeky girls in Australia, but I knew some outright fascinating geekgirls in Canada!
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Comment by PenisHead
Making friends with women is a moronic strategy to find a mate. Women want what's called an "Alpha Male".
Just google " 'Alpha Male' seduction beta" and read on.
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Nel, if you've got her number, then that's half the battle won. How about actually CALLING her, like how we did in the old days? Ask ker out!
Or if that's too much, text her to meet you at a certain place, certain time then just start a convo when you meet her, and plan to see her again. If she doesn't respond to your text message then that's a pretty good sign that she's not into you. It's tough when you're at school so don't tell any of your mates about your intentions or they're bound to sabotage you. And if you can get her on her own, even for just five seconds to say hi, then do it.
PenisHead, ugh, you again! I am neither an ignorant woman nor guy who rarely gets any tail. You're right about the Alpha Male thing, on one level, but well-informed women will know exactly what you're up to if you try to pull that shit off. We know what's available to men over the Internet in the way of bedding a female, and that's not what my advice is about. My blog is about helping people find healthy relationships in modern-day Australia. Do you have a problem with that Dickhead?
Comment by Pat
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Do you have any tips on how to pick up attractive and successful women without having to talk to them?!
Comment by PenisHead
Read my comment above.
Comment by PenisHead
You hurt men by giving them wrong information. Some nice guy (beta male) tries your bad suggestions and will fail. How do I know? Easy, I tried your approach for at least 15 years and it failed. I know many guys who try your approach and fail.
The results of following your suggestions is bad for the self esteem/morale of the guy.
Your intention is good, but your information is bad. That is why I described the author as ignorant. I apologize for my blanket statement, so I'll state it more accurately:
The author of this article is ignorant about how a guy should meet a girl to have a relationship with. Don't follow this advice unless you want to remain a virgin until you lose it to some sex worker like I did.
Be the Alpha male. Get a woman. Have a relationship.
Until then guys, buy some Vulva fragrance and a Chasey Lain CyberSkin vagina.
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What I noticed was, those guys thought they were being 'nice', but they were still jerks. They'd still put women in uncomfortable situations, ask them out on the spot, look desperate or creepy, then complain that 'she doesn't want a nice guy!'.
I suspect Penishead is one of these men. Years of faking like he was 'nice' in order to 'pick up' have spurred him to try seduction techniques.
A lot of what they preach is good info: be yourself, act natural, be confident, make eye contact. But it's founded on a sickening concept - women are an obstacle to be beaten.