JourneywomanHibernating
August 1st 2008 11:04
I know I'm not the only person who does this. Even though I'm (technically) single, I often find myself in the dead of winter not wanting to go out and socialise. I'd rather stay in bed with a good book and knock back a glass of wine than beat the freezing winds as a social butterfly. Lately I've been apathetic towards relationships in general, but why the hermit-style behaviour? I only ever see my closest friends and I'm not going to meet anyone who takes my fancy by doing that.
This isn't really a problem for me because a) I'm having sex with my ex anyway and b) I just can't be bothered really looking for love, but if you're the hibernating type as well and you're single and looking, then obviously you have an issue on your hands. You need to have an active social life to keep your days full and interesting, so for big occasions at the very least, summon all of your energy and will yourself to go out. Once you're there and among people you'll (usually) have a good time and will forget about your warm bed/TV/fridge for a few hours. I always find that I don't regret making the effort to go out, because you can always go back to that stuff later.
A lot of the time, hibernating is great. You can spend precious time alone, catching up on stuff that you don't get to do during the day, and you don't have to do anything you don't want to. In fact, I'm hibernating on a Friday night at the moment - reading, writing, lounging about in my trackies with no makeup and generally being self-indulgent. But the problems arise when you're spending all of your time cooped up inside. You get too comfortable, too lazy with your appearance, and you don't interact with people as much as you should. Humans are social creatures, and by that very token aren't meant to be alone for long periods of time. Even if you're seeing your close friends still, you're limiting your chances of meeting someone special.
So although it is the middle of winter here in Australia and a lot of us are feeling a bit blue, try to keep your hibernating to a minimum - especially if you're single - and make the effort to go out at night and socialise. You might just meet the person you'll spend next winter hibernating with.
No relevance to the post, it's just a cool painting.
This isn't really a problem for me because a) I'm having sex with my ex anyway and b) I just can't be bothered really looking for love, but if you're the hibernating type as well and you're single and looking, then obviously you have an issue on your hands. You need to have an active social life to keep your days full and interesting, so for big occasions at the very least, summon all of your energy and will yourself to go out. Once you're there and among people you'll (usually) have a good time and will forget about your warm bed/TV/fridge for a few hours. I always find that I don't regret making the effort to go out, because you can always go back to that stuff later.
A lot of the time, hibernating is great. You can spend precious time alone, catching up on stuff that you don't get to do during the day, and you don't have to do anything you don't want to. In fact, I'm hibernating on a Friday night at the moment - reading, writing, lounging about in my trackies with no makeup and generally being self-indulgent. But the problems arise when you're spending all of your time cooped up inside. You get too comfortable, too lazy with your appearance, and you don't interact with people as much as you should. Humans are social creatures, and by that very token aren't meant to be alone for long periods of time. Even if you're seeing your close friends still, you're limiting your chances of meeting someone special.
So although it is the middle of winter here in Australia and a lot of us are feeling a bit blue, try to keep your hibernating to a minimum - especially if you're single - and make the effort to go out at night and socialise. You might just meet the person you'll spend next winter hibernating with.
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