JourneywomanGetting physical
January 14th 2008 04:44
So you’ve met the girl of your dreams, had some good conversations with her and now you’re ready to take it to the next level – that is, getting physical. But how do you do this smoothly without looking like you’re overeager? If you already have a good rapport with the girl you can simply lean in and kiss her midway through a conversation – believe me, if she likes you she won’t mind the interruption! However, if you’re not sure of her feelings just yet, you’ll need to start off slow and take baby steps.
In your conversations with her, start to drop slightly sexual hints and see how she responds. Look deep into her eyes – not only do girls love eye contact, you’ll also be able to guage her interest by seeing if her pupils are dilated. If you can, move ever so slightly closer, and touch her arm or knee (depending where you are) as you talk to her. When the conversation falls into a lull and she’s (hopefully) still maintaining eye contact, then you can stroke her hair with one hand and slowly move in for a kiss. This is how many girls envisage their first kiss with a new man – sweet, respectful, and just slightly sensual. If she kisses you back, you’ll know that she’s into you, or at least is entertaining the idea of having a fling with you. If she doesn’t kiss you back, well, there’s your answer – at least you won’t have to keep wondering.
Keep your kisses light and tantalising, and follow her lead when it comes to how much tongue you should use. NEVER use more tongue than she does, as she may not be ready for heavy French-kissing just yet. Take a break, hug her, whisper in her ear, pull back and look into her eyes – always keep her wanting more.
How she behaves after this is entirely dependent on each girl. She may be ready to have sex with you right after she kisses you, but most likely not. Never pressure her to go further than what she’s ready for, as it indicates a lack of respect from your side and she’ll have a tough time trusting you. Kisses might be all you’ll get for a month or more, as many girls like to savour this early part of the relationship before all the complications of sex come into play.
Be confident and playful with your words and movements and keep in mind that if she didn’t like you at least a little bit, she wouldn’t have responded to the sexual innuendos you popped into the conversation earlier. Women will very rarely respond sexually in conversation to a man they’re not interested in. Unless, of course, she’s a tease, in which case you’re better off not bothering with her. A kiss is like the answer to all your questions – you’ll be able to feel the passion (or lack thereof) in her kiss, and you’ll be far more relaxed in her presence once you’ve taken it to that next level.
In your conversations with her, start to drop slightly sexual hints and see how she responds. Look deep into her eyes – not only do girls love eye contact, you’ll also be able to guage her interest by seeing if her pupils are dilated. If you can, move ever so slightly closer, and touch her arm or knee (depending where you are) as you talk to her. When the conversation falls into a lull and she’s (hopefully) still maintaining eye contact, then you can stroke her hair with one hand and slowly move in for a kiss. This is how many girls envisage their first kiss with a new man – sweet, respectful, and just slightly sensual. If she kisses you back, you’ll know that she’s into you, or at least is entertaining the idea of having a fling with you. If she doesn’t kiss you back, well, there’s your answer – at least you won’t have to keep wondering.
Make that first kiss something to remember
Keep your kisses light and tantalising, and follow her lead when it comes to how much tongue you should use. NEVER use more tongue than she does, as she may not be ready for heavy French-kissing just yet. Take a break, hug her, whisper in her ear, pull back and look into her eyes – always keep her wanting more.
How she behaves after this is entirely dependent on each girl. She may be ready to have sex with you right after she kisses you, but most likely not. Never pressure her to go further than what she’s ready for, as it indicates a lack of respect from your side and she’ll have a tough time trusting you. Kisses might be all you’ll get for a month or more, as many girls like to savour this early part of the relationship before all the complications of sex come into play.
Be confident and playful with your words and movements and keep in mind that if she didn’t like you at least a little bit, she wouldn’t have responded to the sexual innuendos you popped into the conversation earlier. Women will very rarely respond sexually in conversation to a man they’re not interested in. Unless, of course, she’s a tease, in which case you’re better off not bothering with her. A kiss is like the answer to all your questions – you’ll be able to feel the passion (or lack thereof) in her kiss, and you’ll be far more relaxed in her presence once you’ve taken it to that next level.
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