JourneywomanFacebook and you
October 14th 2008 03:12
If you're not on facebook, then good for you. Better still if you don't have a myspace page. Because in late 2008, the trend is not to be everywhere on the web like it was a few years ago - people are now choosing to make themselves untraceable. And it makes sense too. You keep your privacy, you keep your mystery, and you limit the people who can contact you to those who know you already. But if you are on facebook and couldn't be without it, then here are some tips to make your facebook page really work for you when it comes to your relationships with others.
1) Limit your profile information. People can be turned off by things like your political views and your religion (or lack thereof). No-one needs to know that you'll settle for 'whatever I can get'. It makes you look bad, so keep it to your birthday and maybe your relationship status. As for quotes, they often look pompous or silly - there's no need for them. For music and film tastes, and activities, keep it short and sweet or you'll appear too self-conscious (or worse, too self-involved).
2) Don't befriend just anyone. Make sure you actually KNOW them in real life. People aren't always who they say they are and you don't want a potential stalker having knowledge of your movements and the places you hang out. This is especially true for women - the old safety issue. And don't feel bad about blocking someone either.
3) Feel free to delete and de-tag. The beauty of facebook is that if you've written something you don't like, you can delete it forever with just one click. And photos can be de-tagged, although this can cause offence to the person who posted the photos. Don't expect yourself to look good in every photo that's tagged of you but you do have a right to have the photo taken down if it really bothers you. Just explain politely to the person who uploaded the pic what bothers you about it - e.g. your boobs are falling out of your dress - and if they're a real friend they'll take it down. If not? De-tag!
4) Don't use facebook every day. You will look like a loser and will give away much of your mystery. If you must, then message people privately, don't post on their walls or comment on their pictures. Sure, some people find computer nerds sexy, but most Aussie chicks want an active man, not someone who has nothing better to do than lurk around some website.
5) Don't talk about facebook. What happens online stays online, and as such it shouldn't become a topic of conversation. You should never, ever give away the fact that you probably spend too much time checking out what other people are doing with their lives. Again - DO NOT talk about facebook!
As long as you're using facebook for its intended purpose, i.e. a social utility, then you shouldn't have too many issues. Facebook should improve your relationships with people, not make you shun society in favour of the online world. If this isn't happening, and you're spending all your time either on facebook or reading blogs about facebook, then perhaps you should consider de-activating your account.
Here's to being untraceable!
1) Limit your profile information. People can be turned off by things like your political views and your religion (or lack thereof). No-one needs to know that you'll settle for 'whatever I can get'. It makes you look bad, so keep it to your birthday and maybe your relationship status. As for quotes, they often look pompous or silly - there's no need for them. For music and film tastes, and activities, keep it short and sweet or you'll appear too self-conscious (or worse, too self-involved).
2) Don't befriend just anyone. Make sure you actually KNOW them in real life. People aren't always who they say they are and you don't want a potential stalker having knowledge of your movements and the places you hang out. This is especially true for women - the old safety issue. And don't feel bad about blocking someone either.
Who's watching you?
3) Feel free to delete and de-tag. The beauty of facebook is that if you've written something you don't like, you can delete it forever with just one click. And photos can be de-tagged, although this can cause offence to the person who posted the photos. Don't expect yourself to look good in every photo that's tagged of you but you do have a right to have the photo taken down if it really bothers you. Just explain politely to the person who uploaded the pic what bothers you about it - e.g. your boobs are falling out of your dress - and if they're a real friend they'll take it down. If not? De-tag!
4) Don't use facebook every day. You will look like a loser and will give away much of your mystery. If you must, then message people privately, don't post on their walls or comment on their pictures. Sure, some people find computer nerds sexy, but most Aussie chicks want an active man, not someone who has nothing better to do than lurk around some website.
5) Don't talk about facebook. What happens online stays online, and as such it shouldn't become a topic of conversation. You should never, ever give away the fact that you probably spend too much time checking out what other people are doing with their lives. Again - DO NOT talk about facebook!
As long as you're using facebook for its intended purpose, i.e. a social utility, then you shouldn't have too many issues. Facebook should improve your relationships with people, not make you shun society in favour of the online world. If this isn't happening, and you're spending all your time either on facebook or reading blogs about facebook, then perhaps you should consider de-activating your account.
Here's to being untraceable!
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But I have to ask . . . does this count as a blog about Facebook? Hmmm !
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