JourneywomanDoes age matter?
April 15th 2008 04:52
Isn't that just the age-old question. When it comes to sexual relationships, being with someone significantly older or younger can cause problems, mostly due to the generation gap. When I say age difference, I'm not talking about two or even five years, but ten years plus: when there is a noticeable difference in values and upbringing.
The issues are as diverse as they come: the older individual in the relationship may feel the need to 'protect' the younger one; they may feel wiser than their partner and this can cause frustration on both sides; and so on. They may feel as though they're not fully connected to their partner because they lack understanding of how the other feels. And in bed, they may not have the stamina that their younger partner possesses.
At the same time, however, many relationships with a large age gap thrive, and last the long haul. Traditonally, an older man will be with a younger woman - the older woman/younger man coupling is a much newer phenomenon, but one that is gaining popularity.
So what have your experiences been with an age gap in your relationship? Were there any problems, or was it all smooth sailing? Let me know orblers.
Ex-lovers Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake had a 9-year age gap
The issues are as diverse as they come: the older individual in the relationship may feel the need to 'protect' the younger one; they may feel wiser than their partner and this can cause frustration on both sides; and so on. They may feel as though they're not fully connected to their partner because they lack understanding of how the other feels. And in bed, they may not have the stamina that their younger partner possesses.
Despite a 15-year age gap, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher are still going strong
At the same time, however, many relationships with a large age gap thrive, and last the long haul. Traditonally, an older man will be with a younger woman - the older woman/younger man coupling is a much newer phenomenon, but one that is gaining popularity.
Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones have a 25-year age gap
So what have your experiences been with an age gap in your relationship? Were there any problems, or was it all smooth sailing? Let me know orblers.
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Comment by tlcorbin
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Family member to wealthy 80 year old patriarch, ". . . she's only marrying you for what she can get her hot 25 year old hands on."
And, thoughtfully he responded, "That's exactly why this 80 year old man is marrying her, to get his hand on her hot 25 year old assets."
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Will never be answered by anyone who hasn't had that kind of relationship. Surely every relationship is as different as two sides of a coin.
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Hazel you're right, every relationship is different so my advice is very broad in its reach.
Oops Ruby, thanks for the correction!
Morgan you make a good point. Socially, it's good to mix with people both our same age and older and younger, it allows for different experiences which is surely the spice of life.
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I guess it was weird at first, but when you don't think about it, it doesn't matter. I wouldn't have it any other way.
The main problem is the female reproductive system you see...it doesn't last forever.
Aside from that, there are no issues.
Micheal Douglas...you lucky son of a bitch....
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But just on Morgans post is kinda true in a way.
I grew up with older guys and my brothers and lots of adults etc.
I was usually doing older people stuff, so my partner and I actually have much more memories in common than people my own age....
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Hey Jarrah, yes Morgan's comment was a good one. Personally, I was always around people my own age (I'm a twin, with no other siblings) so that's who I feel most comfortable around now. My colleagues, on the other hand, are all older than me so it's been important for me to get used to socialising with people of all ages.
That's great that your relationship is thriving, a 7-year gap isn't a huge deal I don't think. Good for you and keep up the great blogs.
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When I'm talking to people my age (and I'm 27), I usually feel like I'm expected to earn their approval in order to even be worthy of being spoken to again, like we have to have the same things in common and I have to be like every other 20-something in order just to be acknowledged by them. So, I just have an easier time talking to and feeling comfortable with someone who is older. I feel like we can be different but they view it as an opportunity to learn something from me rather than act like they know more all the time--as assumed about older/younger interactions--or only care about their point of view as I feel a lot of younger people do.