JourneywomanConfidence: The sexiest trait a man can have
July 4th 2008 04:42
Confidence. It's that hard-to-define, often elusive quality that some people possess, and most people don't. When you meet a naturally confident person, you sit up and take notice. You hang on their every word, and deep down you realise that you are seeking their approval - even if you are not normally like that. Confidence is hard to fake, especially if you're a man trying to fake confidence with women, as most chicks are intuitive enough to see straight through you. You'll come across as an insecure, annoying prat who doesn't respect himself enough to be, well, himself.
And that's the kicker. Real confidence is all about respecting yourself, and knowing that whatever life throws at you, you can handle it. It's about knowing who you are, where your strengths lie, and projecting that onto the world. It's about being yourself, but being the best self that you can be.
And if you really want to be successful with women, you need to cultivate this trait, as it is quite possibly the sexiest characteristic a man can have. I'm not talking arrogance or cockiness, which can irritate more than impress, but a quiet belief in yourself. True confidence does not boast as it doesn't need to. The truly confident man couldn't give a damn what anyone else thinks, and this gives them an attitude that women find irresistible.
This morning, a truly confident guy came into my work, and I'm still thinking about him now, even though we only interacted for a few minutes. I'd seen him before at parties, and went to school with his sister. He's not the best-looking guy ever, and wouldn't be much taller than me, but the way he regarded me made me thankful that I was sitting down at the time. He was respectful and polite, wasn't trying to suck up to me (most men do), and he held my eyes for the longest time, with a sparkle in them that said he knew that I found him attractive. I'm sure I was blushing; perhaps that tipped him off. But the point is, everything about him projected confidence, and it was utterly sexy.
Cultivating genuine confidence can only be done through life experience, social interaction and lots of practice dealing with the opposite sex. I'm confident with men (most of the time!) because I grew up with a twin brother and consequently have had male friends my whole life; I know what interests and motivates them. If you're a guy and don't have any female friends, then now's the time to make them - they'll teach you invaluable lessons about dealing with women. Also, check out what's available on the Internet when it comes to advice about developing genuine confidence - some of it will be unhelpful, but more than likely you'll be able to find some advice appropriate to your situation.
Just remember, if you want to be truly successful with women, you need to become a genuinely confident person - it cannot simply be faked. Best of luck to you.
You'd have to be confident to wear a shirt like that...
And that's the kicker. Real confidence is all about respecting yourself, and knowing that whatever life throws at you, you can handle it. It's about knowing who you are, where your strengths lie, and projecting that onto the world. It's about being yourself, but being the best self that you can be.
And if you really want to be successful with women, you need to cultivate this trait, as it is quite possibly the sexiest characteristic a man can have. I'm not talking arrogance or cockiness, which can irritate more than impress, but a quiet belief in yourself. True confidence does not boast as it doesn't need to. The truly confident man couldn't give a damn what anyone else thinks, and this gives them an attitude that women find irresistible.
This morning, a truly confident guy came into my work, and I'm still thinking about him now, even though we only interacted for a few minutes. I'd seen him before at parties, and went to school with his sister. He's not the best-looking guy ever, and wouldn't be much taller than me, but the way he regarded me made me thankful that I was sitting down at the time. He was respectful and polite, wasn't trying to suck up to me (most men do), and he held my eyes for the longest time, with a sparkle in them that said he knew that I found him attractive. I'm sure I was blushing; perhaps that tipped him off. But the point is, everything about him projected confidence, and it was utterly sexy.
Cultivating genuine confidence can only be done through life experience, social interaction and lots of practice dealing with the opposite sex. I'm confident with men (most of the time!) because I grew up with a twin brother and consequently have had male friends my whole life; I know what interests and motivates them. If you're a guy and don't have any female friends, then now's the time to make them - they'll teach you invaluable lessons about dealing with women. Also, check out what's available on the Internet when it comes to advice about developing genuine confidence - some of it will be unhelpful, but more than likely you'll be able to find some advice appropriate to your situation.
Just remember, if you want to be truly successful with women, you need to become a genuinely confident person - it cannot simply be faked. Best of luck to you.
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