JourneywomanAre you carrying excess baggage?
January 11th 2008 02:01
Have a think about the last few relationships you've had with women. Do you find that you are choosing the same type of girl, over and over, without any success? Are you stuck in a continuous cycle of serial monogamy, without getting truly intimate with the woman in question? Chances are you're carrying excess baggage from previous relationships, and this is transferring over to your new relationships in a negative way.
Whether you're obsessed with one particular ex-girlfriend or you've become frustrated with the female species in general, you need to rid yourself of the negative energy you're carrying around. As an ancient Buddhist proverb goes, "Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness. Happiness is the art of never holding in your mind the memory of any unpleasant thing that has passed." If you are holding bad memories from past relationships, an air of negativity will surround you, so much so that some women may avoid you. This will also happen if you have a negative view of women in general, as girls are very intuitive and will pick up on your lack or respect, or fear of women. If you lack respect for women, they will almost certainly not have any respect for you. If you fear women, well, have a read of my 'Do you place women on a pedestal' blog - it'll give you a boost of confidence.
So how do you go about ridding yourself of this negative energy? The only way is to re-examine each past relationship you've had, and choose to forgive your former partners for their shortcomings, whilst knowing that other women will not necessarily have these same flaws. Think about the fights you had with each woman, then choose to forget them. In order to move on from the past, you need to forgive and forget. Only then will the negative vibes be lifted.
If you're obsessed with one ex-girlfriend in particular, then make sure you get rid of any personal items she may have left lying around and do not contact her until you're over her. Remember, a new relationship cannot begin when the waters are still murky from the last one ending. Get out and meet new people. You never know when the girl you are meant to be with will enter your life, but it definitely won't happen if you're bumming around at home or stuck to your computer screen. The more life you experience, the more happy memories you create, and the more easily you'll be able to block out the bad memories of the past.
Get rid of your excess baggage
Whether you're obsessed with one particular ex-girlfriend or you've become frustrated with the female species in general, you need to rid yourself of the negative energy you're carrying around. As an ancient Buddhist proverb goes, "Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness. Happiness is the art of never holding in your mind the memory of any unpleasant thing that has passed." If you are holding bad memories from past relationships, an air of negativity will surround you, so much so that some women may avoid you. This will also happen if you have a negative view of women in general, as girls are very intuitive and will pick up on your lack or respect, or fear of women. If you lack respect for women, they will almost certainly not have any respect for you. If you fear women, well, have a read of my 'Do you place women on a pedestal' blog - it'll give you a boost of confidence.
So how do you go about ridding yourself of this negative energy? The only way is to re-examine each past relationship you've had, and choose to forgive your former partners for their shortcomings, whilst knowing that other women will not necessarily have these same flaws. Think about the fights you had with each woman, then choose to forget them. In order to move on from the past, you need to forgive and forget. Only then will the negative vibes be lifted.
If you're obsessed with one ex-girlfriend in particular, then make sure you get rid of any personal items she may have left lying around and do not contact her until you're over her. Remember, a new relationship cannot begin when the waters are still murky from the last one ending. Get out and meet new people. You never know when the girl you are meant to be with will enter your life, but it definitely won't happen if you're bumming around at home or stuck to your computer screen. The more life you experience, the more happy memories you create, and the more easily you'll be able to block out the bad memories of the past.
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