JourneywomanAre you approachable?
December 15th 2007 23:29
With the silly season well and truly upon us, it’s time to ask yourself: why are you still single? Is it because you’re not approachable enough? If, as a man, you frequent bars in groups of five or more other men, chances are you’re limiting your chances of success with the opposite sex, because you’re making yourself unapproachable to women. Look at it from our point of view – approaching large groups of men is not an easy task, and it’s one that few women will step up to. Even if it’s just you and a male friend chatting (which is still better than a large group), many women would assume that you were having a deep conversation and don’t want to be interrupted. Instead, you need to move around from group to group in the bar/club/party by yourself, and occasionally spend time alone. This is when women will feel comfortable enough to approach you.
Even then, there are many Aussie women who still believe that the man should make the first move, once interest is known (you’ll know by her eyes and her body language). So you have to be the one to say hello, g’day, sup, what have you. Be as casual as you want, but start a conversation with her. You never know where it may lead.
If you don’t have a target of choice at the moment, then you need to get out more, and now is the time to do it. Practically every night of the week there’s a party going on, you just need to talk to people and get in the loop. In my experience, most people are really chatty once you’ve made them feel comfortable about themselves. With every person you speak to, you learn more about the world and the person you’re talking to. Make the most of every conversation.
You also need to remember that your very presence may be intimidating to a woman who has a crush on you. Also if you are very tall or heavily built, her natural instincts will kick in and she won’t feel safe around you until you’ve given her good reason to feel secure. In the end, no-one will remember who started the first conversation – you’ll just remember the good times from then on.
Even then, there are many Aussie women who still believe that the man should make the first move, once interest is known (you’ll know by her eyes and her body language). So you have to be the one to say hello, g’day, sup, what have you. Be as casual as you want, but start a conversation with her. You never know where it may lead.
If you don’t have a target of choice at the moment, then you need to get out more, and now is the time to do it. Practically every night of the week there’s a party going on, you just need to talk to people and get in the loop. In my experience, most people are really chatty once you’ve made them feel comfortable about themselves. With every person you speak to, you learn more about the world and the person you’re talking to. Make the most of every conversation.
You also need to remember that your very presence may be intimidating to a woman who has a crush on you. Also if you are very tall or heavily built, her natural instincts will kick in and she won’t feel safe around you until you’ve given her good reason to feel secure. In the end, no-one will remember who started the first conversation – you’ll just remember the good times from then on.
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